Last weekend I lifted my moratorium on dating. All prospects that I thought I had promptly vanished. I guess that's the way that goes.
I am now starting this paragraph for the third time. As it turns out the veto part is bugging me more than I thought. The trick is to deal with it without seeming bitter. I guess this is where I tell the story. Once I write it I will be done with it.
The power of veto...
Back in November Kentos and I met two girls. I will use their operation names (a method of naming that Bob and I use to inquire about something without giving anything away). Their names are Operation: SD and Operation: Christmas Party. Both of them walked into the store Kentos was working at and by course of inquiry on the topic of D&D they became acquainted with Kentos and then myself by close association to Kentos.
Kentos spent time with Operation: SD (OP:SD) and I was spending time with Operation: Christmas Party (OP:CP). Operation: Christmas Party became more interested than I was hoping for and I soon found myself in sort of a bind. It was fun to hang out with OP:CP and OP:SD together, but I didn't want to date OP:CP and that was quickly becoming the only option.
I was at a Christmas party when I informed OP:CP that I was not interested in dating (hence the name). This was met with much dismay and I declared that I would be back in contact when I was good and ready. That happened last week.
I was still not interested in dating OP:CP, but had hoped that the 2 months of no contact had been sufficient to put down any hopes she had in dating me. That was the mistake. She still liked me. I spent a couple of evenings with them last weekend and thought that I would like to ask out OP:SD. I did not originally contact OP:CP to get to OP:SD. However, I did after spending time with both of them determine that I would like take OP:SD on a date. This is before it was confirmed to me that OP:CP still liked me.
Herein lies more trouble... Yesterday, OP:CP called me and I did not feel like I could lie to her and hide my interest in OP:SD so I told her what I have written above. Apparently, honesty is not the best thing. I still maintain that it's better to disclose all rather than have all this come out later and really cause some trouble.
The only thing I wonder is if OP:SD really isn't interested, or if OP:CP was just saying that in hopes of getting my attentions returned to her. That I have not intention of seeking the answer to. If she is not interested it's moot. If she would be interested and OP:CP just said she isn't then that raises new questions that don't need raising.
Operation: SD was vetoed.
It's too bad to, she really seemed nice. I guess it's back to the ward list...